I bet you find the stool situation funny as heck. You may be thinking about taking the stool challenge or coming up with a witty post on social media. You may have already crafted a few jokes and generated some laughs.
There are a few questions you may need to ponder and consider before you jump on the bandwagon of those making jokes about the 16-year-old who was videotaped having sex by the adult male who engaged in the act with her.
I have a daughter who will be 16 years old in exactly 4 years. 4 years is not that far off so you must understand why I find it difficult to see the humor in this situation. Permit me to explain why I see red flags and not an opportunity to mock the price of stools or take stool challenges.
I’m an adult male just like the man who engaged in the act with the 16-year-old girl. As an adult, I am fully aware that a 16-year-old lacks the ability to make sound decisions or control the situation in which sex and videotaping of the action occur.
A grown adult male, however, is in a place to manipulate a 16-year-old who may not fully understand or comprehend concepts like safe sex, unwanted pregnancy, love, consent and sinister activities such as videotaping the act.
Sure, a 16-year-old has a mind of their own and that is true. However, I ask that you keep an open mind and picture a mother yelling at her three-year-old son for crossing the street without looking. You will agree that the mother should yell at her son and rightfully so.
However, have you considered the fact that a 3-year old’s brain is not developed enough to associate crossing the street with the possibility of being struck by a moving vehicle?
Does the mother who is yelling at the 3-year-old understand that her level of comprehension of the consequences of crossing the street is far more advanced than the 3-year-old? If she does, she may yell to get his attention but calmly explain the consequences which come with crossing the street without looking.
Place your mind inside that of a 16-year-old for a second. Try to figure out if you understand the consequences of some of the decisions you made when you were 16 years old. Picture the crushes you had and later found your obsession silly as you grew older. Picture the pointless fights with your parents because you could not wait to have your independence.
A 24-year-old woman will understand the implications of the sex act being videotaped and may question the need to do so. A 24-year-old woman will understand that an adult male who wants to videotape the sex act may not have much respect for her or her privacy.
Sure, consenting adults can videotape such acts. We are, however, talking about a 16-year-old child versus a grown adult male.
Speaking purely from a man’s standpoint, I can state without hesitation that the videotaping of a sex act with a 16-year-old is nothing more than a move to secure a trophy. It’s all about capturing a sick fantasy with a child. He has no respect or love for her. For him, it’s just sex. He gets it but does a 16-year-old child understand what is truly happening?
An attraction to a 16-year-old girl by an adult male which leads to sex and divulges into videotaping the act is a dangerous crossing of the line between a sick fantasy and reality.
Before you make a joke about a stool or take the stool challenge, do well to remember the extra wound you may be inflicting on the little girl because this situation is no laughing matter to her.
Do well to remember that she is a human being whose brain has not fully developed enough to understand that she was treated like an object.
Bring her a stool to sit on and comfort her. Tell her that she made a mistake and we are all entitled to make one even as adults. Don’t accuse her of being a bad girl. She already knows and feels that way with her developing brain.
Bring her a stool to sit on and tell her how unfortunate it was for a grown adult male to take advantage of her.
Bring her a stool and to sit on and ask her to be strong and pray with her because she is at a vulnerable and painful moment in her life. A moment in her life where she needs understanding and not ridicule.
A painful moment in her life where she needs support and not stool challenges.
Do well to remember that none of us are perfect. We’re all flawed as humans, myself included.
Source: musingsofanafricanbachelor.com
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